Communication can be difficult at times, especially when we are upset about something. Using “I” statements may allow us to work through disagreements in a way that allows everyone to express their own opinion and feelings. The “I” statement forces us to take responsibility for what we are thinking and feeling and stops us from blaming someone else. We can say things like:
- “I feel ___ when___” VS “You don’t care about me”
- “When you spend money on extra things, it makes me feel ___” VS “You spend money carelessly”
When we change the way we communicate we can potentially help change our lives for good. We have to be careful when we communicate with others because even when we have the best intentions, what we say can escalate.
If you or anyone you know may be in need of someone to talk to and live in the Chicagoland area, feel free to call Olive Branch Counseling Associates at (708) 633-8000 and speak to a professional.
Yadira, Graduate Intern