When we lose what we are used to, our mind focuses on the act of loss which causes us to overthink the situations at times. Sometimes it’s hard to remove someone from our mind, someone who we used to talk to everyday and one day we just don’t talk. Then, we go through a phase of questioning ourselves and our self-esteem will decrease.
It is important to note that we can move on and still be sad. Some people think that if we are still sad about losing someone or something, then we really didn’t move on. It’s not that, it’s that moving on takes time. We can move on and wish things were different especially if we had a lot of plans and goals with the person. We can move on and still love the other person. We can move on and wonder “what if” because we are thinking about the different ways things could have played out. We have to understand that moving on is a process!
If you or anyone you know may be in need of someone to talk to and live in the Chicagoland area, feel free to call Olive Branch Counseling Associates at (708) 633-8000 and speak to a professional.
Yadira, Graduate Intern