Many times, when we are discouraged or dislike ourselves, it is because of how we are looking at the situation, person, or event. Have you ever heard the term reframing? Reframing involves seeing an experience in a different and more positive way. This does not mean avoiding or bypassing negative emotions; rather, it is feeling the full range of emotion and giving ourselves an opportunity to grow. Reframing is a technique used to alter your mindset so that you can look at an experience, person, or relationship from a somewhat different lens. Additionally, reframing encourages you to ask, “Is there another way to look at this situation?”
Here are some examples of reframing:
- I should be over it by now. What am I still holding onto? What do I need to make room for?
- Someone else can do it better. I am just as capable as anyone else.
- I am lazy. I am struggling, and that is okay.
- I am too sensitive. I do not feel seen or heard.
- Why is this happening to me? What is this teaching me right now?
- Just let it go! Work through it, and let it go when you are ready.
- I can’t believe I ate ice cream again. I am so unhealthy. I am craving ice cream, and this feels uncomfortable. I can listen to my body.
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Written by Liz, Mental Health Counseling Master’s Level Intern
Morin, A. (2021, July 2). How cognitive reframing works. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/reframing-defined-2610419