Every parent wants their children to feel loved and appreciated. One of the best ways to do this is to fill up their love tank. Filling up your children’s love tank means showing them that you care about them and value them as individuals. This can be done in a variety of ways, from spending quality time together to expressing your appreciation for them in words and actions. Here are five ways that you can fill up your children’s love tank and make sure they feel loved and appreciated every day.
- Put your phone or work aside and focus your attention on your child. One on one attention is so important for a child. Pay attention to how often they seek your attention when you are on your phone. Little ones want your full attention, can you give it to them?
- Engage in an activity where you follow their lead. They decide. Let them choose the game, the toy or the activity. Say “yes” instead of “no.” Have fun!
- Give praise and affirmations that are focused on effort (not outcome). “Wow look at what you made! You really worked hard on that.”
- Listen to what they’re saying: repeat back what you heard and ask questions. This is a great way to model what being a good listener looks and sounds like. Plus, you will find out what is important to your child!
- Watch and narrate what they do out loud: “You are climbing so high!” We don’t’ always have to offer advice, suggestions or instructions. Just sit back and enjoy your time together.
Olive Branch offers support for parents and children. If you need support and would like to speak to a professional counselor about topics such as the one featured in this blog and are in the Chicago area, please contact Olive Branch Counseling Associates, Inc. at 708-633-8000. We are at 6819 West 167th Street in Tinley Park, Illinois 60477.
Written By: Christine B., Masters Level Intern 2023
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