Supporting Yourself Through a Hard Mother’s Day

The day to celebrate mothers is coming up soon. Mother’s Day is a wonderful holiday to show appreciation to all moms for the hard work they do all year. So this is your PSA to start thinking about what you want to buy your mom to show your love.

Most moms have something innate called maternal instinct. They naturally know how to clean up your wounds, give you a hug without you asking, or call you just to do the classic mom “checkup.”

Yet not everyone has a great relationship with their mother. Maybe your mother has passed away, and Mother’s Day brings a sense of sorrow. If that is your experience, this blog is for you.

Mother’s Day may be a day you dread. First, I want to say that I am truly sorry that you may be hurting. I’d like to offer you some tools that may help you stay grounded as the day approaches, especially if difficult emotions begin to surface.

It is okay to not be okay. What matters most is what you do with those feelings. When emotions are pushed down, they often come out in other, more destructive ways. This isn’t good for you or for the people around you.

• Feel your feelings rather than avoiding them.
• Journal whatever comes to mind.
• Talk to a trusted friend or book an appointment with your counselor.

Begin thinking in terms of selfcare. We tend to feel better when we take care of ourselves. When we become unbalanced, stress can build. This added stress can  affect both gut health and mental health.

• As the weather warms up, take yourself on a walk. The Vitamin D from sunlight can help boost your mood.
• Treat yourself to a spa day. You may have earned it, and feeling refreshed can lift your spirits.
• Start a gratitude journal. Focusing on what you’re grateful for can help you see just how blessed you truly are.

Setting boundaries is also important. Just because someone wants to spend time with you doesn’t mean you are obligated to say yes.

• Know what you can handle. If a situation is abusive, you do not owe anyone your time.
• It is okay to understand your personal needs and act on them. If your emotional or physical health feels at risk, set boundaries that protect you.

Warmly,
 Jennifer Hauser, Undergrad Intern 2026

Not all holidays feel like celebrations. At Olive Branch Counseling Associates, we understand that. We have clinicians available to help you work through any emotions that may arise during triggering seasons. We would love to help you develop skills to not only cope but thrive during difficult times. You can call us at (708) 633‑8000. We are located at 6819 W 167th St, Tinley Park, Illinois 60477.

References

Almond, B. (2010). The monster within: The hidden side of motherhood. University of California Press.

Psychreg. (2024, May 10). Dealing with complex emotions on Mother’s Day: Tips for honouring maternal figures and prioritising mental health. https://www.psychreg.org/dealing-complex-emotions-mothers-day-tips-honouring-maternal-figures-prioritising-mental-health/