Boundaries: Building Stronger Relationships and Practicing Self-Care, A Two-Part Guide

In Part One of this two-part blog, we explored the foundations of healthy boundaries, what they are, the seven different types, and how to start setting them with clarity and confidence. But knowing the theory is only half the journey. The real challenge comes when we apply these principles to the relationships that matter most in our lives.

In Part Two, we’ll turn theory into practice. How do you set boundaries with a partner without pushing them away? What about boundary-setting with family members who may not accept change easily, or friends who struggle when you say “no”? And how do you balance your own needs with professional expectations at work?

Part Two: Putting Boundaries Into Practice

Boundaries in Romantic Relationships

Romantic relationships thrive on mutual respect and clear communication. When speaking to your partner about boundaries:

• Choose a calm, neutral time to discuss boundaries, not in the heat of conflict.
• Use “I” statements instead of “you” complaints. For example, “I feel overwhelmed when…” communicates information whereas “You always…” communicates blame.
• Remove distractions so both partners feel heard. Silence phones, turn off screens, and speak with your partner directly and in person.

Boundaries in love-relationships are not barriers, they are bridges that deepen intimacy, safely.

Boundaries with Family

Family can be the hardest place to set boundaries, especially when old dynamics linger. When setting limits with family:

• Speak with respect, as one adult to another.
• Focus on one or two boundaries rather than overwhelming them with a long list.
• Expect emotional pushback, so prepare to stay calm.

Not addressing family boundary issues can lead to long-term resentment, so it’s worth having the tough conversations.

Boundaries in Friendships

Friendships also require balance. Life changes may shift the time and energy you can give, and that’s normal. When a friend crosses a line:

• Communicate openly instead of avoiding them.
• Don’t gossip to others about the issue; go directly to the source.
• If disrespect continues, it may be time to reevaluate the closeness of the relationship.

Healthy friendships rest on consistency, trust, and respect for each other’s limits.

Boundaries at Work

Work can blur personal limits, especially with technology and remote schedules. To keep balance:

• Define your “stop time” and log off.
• Communicate availability clearly, especially regarding emails and tasks outside work hours.
• Keep relationships professional to avoid blurred lines.
• If problems persist, follow workplace channels like consulting supervisors or the human resources department rather than gossiping or complaining to co-workers.

Workplace boundaries help prevent burnout and foster productivity.

When Boundaries Are Ignored

Even clear boundaries can be tested. If someone does not honor yours:

• Restate your limits calmly, without overexplaining.
• Reduce your time and emotional investment if violations continue.
• In cases of repeated disrespect or abuse, step back or seek professional support.

Someone who refuses to honor your boundaries is revealing the true nature of the relationship from their point of view. It is ultimately up to you to honor the limits you set by taking action to restate your needs, find a reasonable compromise, modify your involvement in the relationship, or perhaps leave the relationship.

Closing Thoughts

Boundaries are not about keeping people at arm’s length; they are about creating space for respect, honesty, and balance in every relationship. As we’ve seen, boundaries protect your emotional energy, clarify your needs, and guide others in how to treat you. In the end, however, you are responsible for deciding what your limits are and acting to preserve them.

Remember, boundary-setting is a skill, not a one-time act. It takes practice, courage, and sometimes discomfort. But with each small step, whether it’s saying “no” to an extra commitment, or creating space when you need it, boundary-setting is an act of self-care that helps you strengthen your relationships with others and with yourself.

To learn more about building healthy relationships or to speak with a professional counselor about any mental health concerns, please contact Olive Branch Counseling Associates, Inc. at 708-633-8000. We are located at 6819 167^th St. in Tinley Park, IL 60477, offering in-person and telehealth appointments. It is our pleasure to be of service to you.

Molly V.

Graduate Intern, 2025

Olive Branch Counseling Associates, Inc.

References

Brooten-Brooks, M. C. (2022, January 24). How to Set Healthy Boundaries. Verywell Health. https://www.verywellhealth.com/setting-boundaries-5208802

Nash, J. (2018, January 5). How to set healthy boundaries & build positive relationships. Positive Psychology. https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/