Living with an Absent Parent

As a teenager, dealing with the absence of a parent who chooses not to be present in your life can be a difficult and painful experience. As most children, we grow up wanting both of our parents in our lives, until something changes. Coping with this situation requires understanding, self-care, and seeking support. Here are some ways to help you navigate through this challenging time:

      Acknowledge Your Feelings. It’s important to recognize and accept your emotions, whether it’s sadness, anger, confusion, or a mix of different feelings. Allow yourself to express your emotions in a healthy way, such as talking to a trusted adult, journaling, or engaging in activities that help you process your feelings. The more we ask about the situation, the more we understand and accept your parents’ decision. While acceptance can be difficult, it is essential to your healing process. It’s okay to set boundaries with your parents if their absence causes you emotional distress. Protect your mental and emotional well-being by limiting contact or establishing clear boundaries that prioritize your needs.

      Focus on Self-Love. Remember that your worth is not defined by your parent’s absence. Practice self-love and self-care by engaging in activities that bring you joy, taking care of your physical and emotional well-being, and surrounding yourself with positive influences. This can be seen in various ways such as going for a walk, photography, or reading. Reach out to people who care about you, such as family members, friends, teachers, or a counselor. Talking about your emotions and experiences with someone you trust can provide comfort and validation which is a great example of showing yourself self-love.

      Focus on Personal Growth. Use this experience as an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. Explore your interests, develop your talents, and set goals for your future that are based on your own values and aspirations. Use this experience as your motivation to be the best version of yourself. Prove to those that thought you were not going to make it alone, that you can while also not letting this situation determine your future. Also, look for positive role models in your life, whether it’s a family member, mentor, teacher, or community leader. These role models can provide guidance, support, and encouragement during this challenging time.

      Nonetheless, remember you are not alone in this journey. It’s okay to feel a range of emotions and seek support to help you cope with your parent’s absence. Some days may feel like you have it all together while others may feel a little gray and unsure. After all, stay strong, be kind to yourself, and know that you have the strength and resilience to overcome this challenge. When you feel like you are running low on fuel, do not forget to seek help because there are people willing to walk this journey with you. 

Written by: Rachel Garcia; Masters Level Intern at Olive Branch

If you find yourself needing someone to walk this journey with you and would like to speak to a professional counselor, please contact Olive Branch Counseling Associates, Inc. at 708-633-8000. We are located at 6819 West 167th Street in Tinley Park, Illinois 60477.