Ever listen to a song and feel like it was written just for you? There is this Francesca Battistelli song that is running through my brain these days because it reminds me of my life when my procrastination runs amok. There is a line in there about getting pulled over for speeding when you are... Continue Reading →
Emotional regulation refers to the skills people use to understand, manage and respond to their emotions in ways that are appropriate for a situation. Rather than eliminating feelings, emotional regulation focuses on adjusting how intense an emotion feels, how long it lasts and how it is expressed. These skills help people pause, think, and choose... Continue Reading →
In the previous blog, I introduced the difference between feedback and criticism. In Part Six, I will address blame and our inner critic. Blame and Burden According to Caldwell, taking responsibility for our actions and for what we have done wrong is essential to regaining our power. It allows us to accept ourselves and learn... Continue Reading →
Mindfulness breathing is one of the most accessible and effective ways to support both mental and physical wellbeing. By gently directing attention to the breath, we can calm the nervous system, reduce stress, and reconnect with the present moment. Mindfulness breathing exercises are simple, adaptable, and often serve as a gateway into broader mindfulness and... Continue Reading →
We now turn to another important section of the book: Feedback versus Criticism. Caldwell explores how our interpretation of the world and others shapes both our reactions and our perceptions. Feedback describes a situation as it is and invites awareness and understanding, whereas criticism often triggers feelings of shame, defensiveness, and withdrawal. We will delve... Continue Reading →
I am not a fan of winter. The coldness is especially harsh this year. My day is set when waking up to unplowed snow when I need to leave for work. Not to mention I dislike the restrictions when bundling up in layers. I start to feel depressed when winter comes along. Now don’t get... Continue Reading →
In a world that often pulls attention in countless directions, mindfulness offers a way to slow down and reconnect with the present. Rather than becoming caught in regrets about the past or worries about the future, mindfulness encourages a state of active awareness by paying attention to thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations as they unfold,... Continue Reading →
The five interventions follow directly after the five intentions mentioned in the previous blog. They require us to pay close attention to unconscious habits or actions we may have. These mindless behaviors can range from biting our nails and playing with our hair to restless leg movements. Because we often do them automatically, we may... Continue Reading →
Anger is a normal human emotion. Everyone feels it at times, perhaps when plans fall apart, when we feel treated unfairly, or when we face ongoing stress. Anger itself is not the problem. In fact, it can serve a useful purpose by signaling that something important needs attention. Trouble arises when anger becomes intense, frequent,... Continue Reading →
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