Supporting a Friend Who Has Experienced Sexual Assault

As an individual, there may come a time when someone close to you discloses that they have experienced the traumatic and deeply personal ordeal of sexual assault. It is a heavy burden for both the survivor and those who care about them. Finding the right words and actions to support your friend can be challenging but remember that your unwavering support can make a significant difference in their healing process. In this blog, I will share some insights and suggestions on how to support a friend who has been through such a distressing experience. I was recently struck with this news about a good friend therefore, I wanted to speak about this topic that many do not want to talk about. 

1. Be a Compassionate Listener:

      When your friend confides in you about their experience, it is crucial to provide a safe and non-judgmental space for them to express their feelings. Listen attentively, without interrupting or offering unsolicited advice. Sometimes, all they need is to be heard and acknowledged. Validate their feelings and let them know that what happened to them is not their fault. Believing your friend’s account of the assault is of utmost importance. Sexual assault survivors often face skepticism and disbelief, which can exacerbate their trauma. Your belief and validation can provide them with the strength to confront their experience and begin the healing process. Let them know that you trust and support them unconditionally.

2. Respect Their Wishes and Boundaries:

      It is essential to respect your friend’s wishes and boundaries throughout their healing journey. They may have varying needs when it comes to discussing the assault or seeking professional help. Avoid pressuring them into sharing details they are not comfortable with. Encourage their autonomy and remind them that they have control over their own healing process. Thank them for confiding in you to share this undesired news while also not questioning so much about the incident. Let them speak what they want to share and stick to their boundaries. 

3. Encourage Professional Support:

      Take the initiative to educate yourself about sexual assault, its impact, and the resources available for survivors. Understanding the complexities surrounding this issue will enable you to provide informed support. Be aware of potential triggers and sensitivities and strive to create an environment that is empathetic and understanding. While you can provide emotional support, it is crucial to encourage your friend to seek professional help. Suggest contacting a counselor, therapist, or a local sexual assault support organization that can offer specialized guidance and resources. Professional support can assist them in navigating their trauma and developing coping mechanisms.

4. Offer Practical Support:

      Practical support can go a long way in helping your friend regain a sense of stability. Offer to accompany them to appointments, assist with everyday tasks, or provide a safe space if needed. Small gestures of kindness, such as preparing a meal or running errands, can make a significant impact on their well-being. The healing process for survivors of sexual assault is unique to each individual and can take time. It is essential to be patient, allowing your friend to express their emotions at their own pace. Avoid judgment and refrain from imposing your own timeline or expectations. Your consistent support will help them rebuild trust and find their path towards healing.

      After all, supporting a friend who has experienced sexual assault requires empathy, compassion, and a commitment to understanding their needs. By being a compassionate friend, you can make a positive difference in their healing journey. Remember, your unwavering support can provide them with the strength and hope they need to reclaim their lives. Together, we can create a world where survivors feel empowered, supported, and heard.

Written by: Rachel Garcia; Masters Level Intern at Olive Branch

If you need support, live in the Chicago area, and would like to speak to a professional counselor, please contact Olive Branch Counseling Associates, Inc. at 708-633-8000. We are located at 6819 West 167th Street in Tinley Park, Illinois 60477.