We moved into our brand new house in 2005. It was such an incredible experience to move into a clean, freshly painted, and newly landscaped space. At that time, every wall was free of blemishes, every door closed quickly, and there wasn't one stain on the carpet. However, as I look around today, I can't... Continue Reading →
Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is a day that is typically spent with a significant other. Oftentimes, it is a way to strengthen a relationship because you are ultimately showing that you love and care for them. Strengthening a relationship is important because it will allow for a happier and healthier relationship. If we celebrate the relationship on... Continue Reading →
Simple Connection
I heard Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman interviewed on the Unlocking Us podcast the other day. They talked about their new book, "The Love Prescription: 7 days to more intimacy, connection, and joy." It was a fascinating conversation about the small steps we can take in our relationships to make marked differences.... Continue Reading →
The Complexity and Paradox of Hypersexuality, Part 1
Over 20 years ago when Zahrain and I were receiving marriage guidance from Bishop Brown of Bronzeville, Chicago who officiated our wedding, he schooled us on three critical issues of focus for sustained happiness in our marriage. In this brief blog, I will focus on the second (sex), and may discuss the other two in... Continue Reading →
Benefits of Pre-Marriage Counseling
Many people seek counseling and therapy when they are walking through a tough situation, suffering a mental illness, or simply feel stuck. However, something doesn’t always have to be wrong in order to get help. Pre-marriage counseling can be so beneficial to help newly engaged couples enter into a whole new season of their lives.... Continue Reading →
Relationships
It is critically important during these times to stay close in our relationships with our loved ones. Ever since the beginning of the pandemic, isolation and loneliness bears a strong burden on individuals because of the lack of contact and communication. Most healthy relationships rely on sources of strength linked to shared similarities, friendships, individuality,... Continue Reading →
Jealousy
What is jealousy? Jealousy can come from feelings of low self-esteem or lack of confidence. Especially when someone is unhappy about themselves. What is the difference between jealousy and envy? According to Psychology Today, jealousy occurs when something we have is threatened by a third person, while envy occurs when we lack a desirable attribute... Continue Reading →
Celos
¿Qué son los celos? Los celos pueden provenir de sentimientos de baja autoestima o falta de confianza. Especialmente cuando alguien está descontento consigo mismo. ¿Cuál es la diferencia entre celos y envidia? Según Psychology Today, los celos ocurren cuando algo que ya tenemos es amenazado por una tercera persona. Mientras que la envidia ocurre cuando... Continue Reading →
Couples Communication During the Holiday Season
For couples, the holiday season can be stressful, to say the least. There can be arguments about money, whose parents' house we are going to first, where we will be spending the most time, what to bring, what gifts to get, etc. This year with COVID, all of these factors can be even more challenging. One thing couples will benefit from is... Continue Reading →