Some people attempt to avoid discomfort or other uncomfortable feelings. They may avoid any negative experience, conversation, or encounter that could elicit pain. They might not even realize their avoidance comes from not wanting to feel uncomfortable. People may mask their feelings by saying things like, “Good vibes only!” or “There is always a silver... Continue Reading →
When I started my internship experience and began working with clients, I distinctly remember my gut reaction was to say, “I am so sorry” if my clients would cry in session. I quickly realized that I did not need to do this, and I looked at this example as an opportunity to examine my own... Continue Reading →
According to the Holidays Calendar (2022), April 30th was National Honesty Day. This is a day that celebrates both honesty and candor. This holiday was originally invented by the author M. Hirsh Goldberg to serve as a contrast to April Fool’s Day, the day of pranks and deceit. It has been said that honesty is... Continue Reading →
In a previous blog, I promised to further unpack a proposed metaphor: problems are pregnant with intrusive parents. I suggested that when we become aware of a problem, if we look further there will most likely be other little problems on the inside, and likely bigger ones on the outside. In this visit, I want... Continue Reading →
Problems often seem pregnant, with active and intrusive parents who do not seem to leave them alone. This is an insight that I gained earlier this week during a counseling session at Roseland Christian Ministries where, as a counseling intern with Olive Branch Counseling Assoiates, I provide counseling services to members of the community. That... Continue Reading →
Over 20 years ago when Zahrain and I were receiving marriage guidance from Bishop Brown of Bronzeville, Chicago who officiated our wedding, he schooled us on three critical issues of focus for sustained happiness in our marriage. In this brief blog, I will focus on the second (sex), and may discuss the other two in... Continue Reading →
It’s that time of year again where many people create resolutions for the new year. Often, these consist of promises to do more or a commitment to add on a new activity or practice in the new year. Have you ever thought about what you could eliminate instead of adding on? Sometimes we don’t realize... Continue Reading →
Many of us are hyper-focused on what others think. It often dictates how we behave, how we respond, and how we feel. With all this focus on external factors, are you making room for the possibility that people are not judging, critiquing, or thinking about you as much as you think they are? Are you... Continue Reading →
As humans, many of us want to help others. If you are being honest with yourself, it not only makes the other person feel good, but it also probably makes you feel good. Helping and caring for others is completely essential- it brings light and love into the world. However, when someone constantly prioritizes the... Continue Reading →
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