It is sometimes said that people primarily listen with their hearts, not their ears. The first time that I was told this statement was during a train-the-trainer session to implement the non-violent approach of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.. At first, I was puzzled by the statement because I wondered what my heart had to... Continue Reading →
You are in the middle of a conversation with a friend at a local coffee shop. You haven’t seen each other in weeks, and you can’t wait to dish on the latest things happening. Or, you are in the middle of an argument with your significant other, and you just need to shut them up.... Continue Reading →
When events happen in your life, are you reacting or are you responding? What is the difference? Reaction is based on our subconscious patterns and beliefs. Think of it as a "knee-jerk" reaction, one that happens instantly and does not require time to process or evaluate. A reaction is often a habit, and it is... Continue Reading →
Welcome back to my review of The Power of Two by Susan Heitler. In our last post we covered the second basic of dialogue which is, use the four S’s We discussed a cooperative and collaborative way to communicate that focuses on interlacing the thoughts and perspectives of the individuals to create a new mutual understanding.... Continue Reading →
Welcome back to my review of The Power of Two by Susan Heitler. In our last post we covered the first basic of dialogue, braid your dialogue. We discussed a cooperative and collaborative way to communicate that focuses on interlacing the thoughts and perspectives of the individuals to create a new mutual understanding. Today we will be... Continue Reading →
Welcome back to my review of The Power of Two by Susan Heitler. In our last post we covered the seventh basic of listening, use bilateral listening. We discussed the ways in which we listen or don’t listen to others as we attempt to multitask or win a discussion and how they are harmful to... Continue Reading →
Welcome back to my review of The Power of Two by Susan Heitler. In our last post we covered the third basic of communicating, no trespassing. We discussed crossovers and how to take away more from your conversations with your partner. Today we will be diving into the fourth basic of collaborative dialogue, no polluting. -Courtney,... Continue Reading →
A Review of The Power of Two Welcome back to my review of The Power of Two by Susan Heitler. In our last post we covered the second basic of cooperative dialogue, verbalize feelings. We continued our conversation about ‘I statements’ and discussed the importance of knowing and communicating our emotions in an appropriate way.... Continue Reading →
Welcome back to my review of The Power of Two by Susan Heitler. In our last post we covered the first basic of cooperative dialogue, say it. We discussed concepts including voicelessness, hinting, hoping, wishing, and guessing. I then introduced ‘I statements’ which we will continue doing in our discussion today. Today we will be... Continue Reading →
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