The holidays are a time of togetherness for a lot of people. Sometimes it’s hard for people to prioritize which relationships they want to nurture at this time. You may have a ton of fun when you see that one certain friend, but is it in your best interest if you always stay out too late and oversleep the next day? Let’s talk about how to evaluate your social health.
First, you should think about what aspects of your social life you really do enjoy. If you can come up with a handful of positives, you’re on the right track! If you have a long list of things you would like to improve, that’s okay too. Now, you can start making some changes.
Every once in a while, it is important to identify and evaluate your individual relationships, and how they affect you. This may be difficult, especially when it comes to old friendships. Maybe you’ve been close friends with someone for twenty-plus years, but every time you get together all you do is complain and think very negatively. Or, maybe, you have a situation like the one in the first paragraph. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries with these friends, or speak with them about how your friendship affects you. If you don’t feel comfortable in doing either of these things with that person, maybe it’s a sign that some space could be healthy.
A lot of people think that the perfect image of social health is having a TON of friends. However, a lot of people prefer to just have a few very close friends. There’s no right or wrong number of friends to have, as long as those relationships are positive influences on your life. Positive friendships lead to higher self-esteem, and in turn keep us happier in the long run. If you find yourself feeling down about a lack of friendships, don’t be afraid to join a club, become a member of an organization, or attend events to meet people with similar interests! If you’re nervous about that, ask someone you already know to come with you. Likewise, if they do any of these activities ask if you can come with!
Now that you’re prioritizing your social health, you may be thinking about having people over for the holidays. Below, I have listed several things you can do to prepare your home for having over guests. However, if this blog overwhelmed you and you live in the NW Indiana or Chicago area, come visit us at Olive Branch Counseling Associates, Inc. We are located at 6819 W. 167th Street in Tinley Park, Illinois. We can be reached at (708) 633-8000.
- Check, clean, and prepare your vacuum.
- Inspect the dishwasher to ensure it’s running properly and efficiently.
- Check that your oven temperature is accurate.
- Tighten hinges on your doors and cabinets.
- Replace burnt out lightbulbs.
- Test rarely-used kitchen appliances.
- Get your furnace/heater and water heater checked.
- Check plumbing. (Toilets, drains, garbage disposal, etc.)
- Check bathroom ventilation.
- Go through and organize your papers and documents.
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